谁人背后不被说，谁人背后不说人？
好， 本小姐今天就来数数最近身边经常接触的几个人。
室友刚搬走，平时乱得不行的洛斯小姐竟然把我们的洗手间洗刷一边。我下班回来一看，感激涕零。如今一人独霸一室，甚是happy.
陈小姐和郑小姐最近忙工作忙学习忙男友，大家都很不约而同地想到要三个女生出去吃个饭，聚聚旧。郑小姐渐变日本人，点名要吃日本菜，唉，这一香蕉白的很白，黄的并不很黄。
上班工作出入的另外三位同学同志也是十分有趣。和我同一部门的布莱恩让我想了很久才想到要怎么形容他：大麻吸多了。小男生皮肤白白的，可是经常神情呆济一句话说完喜欢笑两声，但说其老板的小八卦和开快车可是数一数二的厉害。电子的印度女生普喳是真的说话叽叽喳喳，天生的“女人”，刀子嘴不饶人。我能不作声便不作声，奉承“我不搭理你，你即害怕我”之真理。如今不敢拿我开玩笑，车。彼特是算挺惹人喜爱的了，高高瘦瘦，长的帅帅卷毛。人有点神经质，但凡事都:"that's cool." 跟机械部的四大天王混得如鱼得水，口水不停。
老板有好几。小老板阿伦是天生的大小孩，女儿都跟我差不多大，可心理年龄比我小。时不时给我们发搞笑得不行的email，时不时甩甩桌子骂骂人。我师父约翰是一忠厚老实人，耐心非常，但在跟客户谈得不行的时候电话一盖，F字眼还是有的，装听不见好了。其人耐心程度几乎超越我忍耐程度。其讲授时间最长可长达40分钟，本小姐也只能乖乖站在一旁“yes. oh ok. I can do that. It's doable."最怕就是一下子赶起三张图以上。中级老板有三。吉米是一圆头圆脑的爱尔兰裔人，声音响亮得可以吓我一跳。安德鲁是最喜欢找我做事的工程师，原因无二，因为我捱得住他的骂。其人持建筑与结构双学位，对图的要求何止高，完全是连我师父都不时抱怨两句。一份图打回来，可以是因为一个箭头没标得他看着顺眼。没的，老板说改，"yes. sure. i'll get you a new print"也就完了，他拿着印章不签图就是不签，你有再不满意还是得给他改好。最初几次改图被他骂得想找个地洞钻下去。现在知道本小姐怎么骂也不皱一下眉毛，改讽刺，好样的。杨是一韩国老公公，元老级得一般不跟我们小的打交道。大老板比尔是一白发老公公，话很多。其余三人均喜爱抱怨大老板最爱给他们上课，一上就是10-30分钟，“郁闷得要死”。我人话不多，也懒得跟去数分钟。有话接就对了，郁闷个啥。大老板忙得要死，怎么可能坐着30分钟跟你聊家常没有一个电话进，没有一个人找？两个字：晒命。也罢，都是under age（未满21岁）的仨小孩。本小姐不爱晒，一边乘凉去也。
韩同志最近连日面试得抓狂，不爽。弄得本小姐也很不爽。乱拉警报说自己hit and ran。待本小姐担心绝望近24小时，到他家一看，TMD此人飙车飙得出神入化，能从别人车上刮下一点漆自己安然无恙。于是江河决堤，痛哭将近一小时，本小姐这次可是容颜不顾了，继而自问做人是否太easy? 先是被朋友骗说订婚，继而男友开玩笑说出车祸。可是大家说说看，我因此高兴担心是否无理？罢了罢了，母亲大人说得好，学会放得开不要太执着。
6/26/2007
一些小感想
最近高考放榜，大家都状元状元的壮得不行。然后就大肆报道，关键字眼离不开“智商高”，“不钻题海牛角尖”，“上课认真有效率”，男生的话还得补上几句“波照踢，机照打”。
上过高三的人都知道，这全是废话。我从来搞不懂高考状元真正意义是什么。出题老师个个是状元，怎么就不报道一下？个个状元无一近期目标“北大清华”，远大理想“诺贝尔”。连生活长得是什么样子都不懂，就在那儿疯小孩的放大话。其实还不是大人老师教坏的。绝对不（懂）提自己真正喜欢些啥。（清华北大踢波打机过不了世的）
做了mentor快两年了，高三毕业生也都接触过两三届。放大话的小孩不是没有，但最终还是那些踏踏实实找到自己最喜欢的小孩大学开始得比较顺利。
我在家在读高中的时候很压抑。觉得世界变了样子。以前眼看着的师兄师姐并不是我这么个活法。（一天到晚“15秒出操”，“衣服束好”，“X主任传达XXX”。我不爽，把班主任阿茂每堂数学课用来传达太上皇懿旨的时间记录下来，少致5分，多达15.) 也或许是因为自己见识多了点，人也放肆了些。当年就我一人从我们高中踏出了国门，堂堂正正地升上了大一。不敢说我们学校可以跟IVY LEAGUE比，但光每50个美国注册工程师里就有一个是我们学校毕业的数字也够吓人的了。诺大一美国怎么止50个工程学校？（TMD最近才知道光大一那年上最最基础的基础课就甩掉了将近七成的人，怪不得大二的时候奖学金颁奖礼的时候看见个个都面善；原来是pool小了人人最差也是TOP 30% OF FRESHMAN CLASS，晕）可是大家在背后话是怎么说的就不得而知了。也罢也罢，本小姐一向作风我行我素，不爱管别人的事，所以也就不敢说期盼别人怎的给我敲锣打鼓。本小姐有的是大把大把的事情去担心忧虑，无关人等给我一边乘凉去。我一直都觉得国内高中多少是不称职的，17、8岁的小孩血气方刚毫无理想（清华北大踢波打机谈恋爱的不算），只会做那么几道题，你几十位正在被生活磨炼中由20-50年龄不等的大人们就能忍住只字不提“生活工作”的人生道理，还哗的高考一过，认为自己mission accomplished，翘起双腿等高考状元等谢师宴受供奉。我可从来没说过高考对我有半点损失，但如果说国内教育不好的话有二，一是荒谬的性教育，二是缺席的理想引导。其二尤为恶劣。
这里的小孩在国内大家的眼里很无耻，由天黑party到天亮，大麻酒精不要命地灌，脏乱差，书读不好，搞得连美国的学也比较容易上，一夜情无所谓，不知廉耻。拜托，是有这么疯的小孩没错。可是人家懂得分寸，自己几斤几两绝对心中有数。要上进要当乖小孩的更多，玩过回头是岸的是大多数。我不赞成虐待自己，但并不认同我们活该被那些“神圣的”老师们这么瞒着过人生最最开始要学着做选择的几年。这不等于幼儿时期学走路不让走，一下子得学跑么？国内也不是没有这种美国式的疯小孩啊。美国人对付青少年有一种逻辑很奏效:什么都不喜欢? 行，至少你知道你不喜欢的，而且你还有大把可能喜欢上还未接触过的。而我们国内的妈妈可能就要恸天豪哭怎么可能生出这么一个没出息的儿子/女儿，爸爸可能就找藤条去了。
人贵自知，是旧时人总结出来的生活睿智，其道理就是在于并非所有人都是状元。
上过高三的人都知道，这全是废话。我从来搞不懂高考状元真正意义是什么。出题老师个个是状元，怎么就不报道一下？个个状元无一近期目标“北大清华”，远大理想“诺贝尔”。连生活长得是什么样子都不懂，就在那儿疯小孩的放大话。其实还不是大人老师教坏的。绝对不（懂）提自己真正喜欢些啥。（清华北大踢波打机过不了世的）
做了mentor快两年了，高三毕业生也都接触过两三届。放大话的小孩不是没有，但最终还是那些踏踏实实找到自己最喜欢的小孩大学开始得比较顺利。
我在家在读高中的时候很压抑。觉得世界变了样子。以前眼看着的师兄师姐并不是我这么个活法。（一天到晚“15秒出操”，“衣服束好”，“X主任传达XXX”。我不爽，把班主任阿茂每堂数学课用来传达太上皇懿旨的时间记录下来，少致5分，多达15.) 也或许是因为自己见识多了点，人也放肆了些。当年就我一人从我们高中踏出了国门，堂堂正正地升上了大一。不敢说我们学校可以跟IVY LEAGUE比，但光每50个美国注册工程师里就有一个是我们学校毕业的数字也够吓人的了。诺大一美国怎么止50个工程学校？（TMD最近才知道光大一那年上最最基础的基础课就甩掉了将近七成的人，怪不得大二的时候奖学金颁奖礼的时候看见个个都面善；原来是pool小了人人最差也是TOP 30% OF FRESHMAN CLASS，晕）可是大家在背后话是怎么说的就不得而知了。也罢也罢，本小姐一向作风我行我素，不爱管别人的事，所以也就不敢说期盼别人怎的给我敲锣打鼓。本小姐有的是大把大把的事情去担心忧虑，无关人等给我一边乘凉去。我一直都觉得国内高中多少是不称职的，17、8岁的小孩血气方刚毫无理想（清华北大踢波打机谈恋爱的不算），只会做那么几道题，你几十位正在被生活磨炼中由20-50年龄不等的大人们就能忍住只字不提“生活工作”的人生道理，还哗的高考一过，认为自己mission accomplished，翘起双腿等高考状元等谢师宴受供奉。我可从来没说过高考对我有半点损失，但如果说国内教育不好的话有二，一是荒谬的性教育，二是缺席的理想引导。其二尤为恶劣。
这里的小孩在国内大家的眼里很无耻，由天黑party到天亮，大麻酒精不要命地灌，脏乱差，书读不好，搞得连美国的学也比较容易上，一夜情无所谓，不知廉耻。拜托，是有这么疯的小孩没错。可是人家懂得分寸，自己几斤几两绝对心中有数。要上进要当乖小孩的更多，玩过回头是岸的是大多数。我不赞成虐待自己，但并不认同我们活该被那些“神圣的”老师们这么瞒着过人生最最开始要学着做选择的几年。这不等于幼儿时期学走路不让走，一下子得学跑么？国内也不是没有这种美国式的疯小孩啊。美国人对付青少年有一种逻辑很奏效:什么都不喜欢? 行，至少你知道你不喜欢的，而且你还有大把可能喜欢上还未接触过的。而我们国内的妈妈可能就要恸天豪哭怎么可能生出这么一个没出息的儿子/女儿，爸爸可能就找藤条去了。
人贵自知，是旧时人总结出来的生活睿智，其道理就是在于并非所有人都是状元。
6/14/2007
What's up...
明天又到出粮日，可是下半月的薪水要留到不上班的时候用。现在每写一张check都感觉心跳加快，可是还是挺自豪的。
本来还愁要怎么炫耀一下我们买到Rain在Madison Square下周六演唱会的票。可是还没想好，演唱会就被延迟了。因为在Nevada一家演唱公司告他同名。他在Atlanta的演唱会被迫由"Rain is coming"改成“Jihoon is coming"，怪怪的。所以干脆把之后的都退迟，打完官司再说。
建筑史的期末考完了。这个课终于告一段落。教授太搞笑抵死，冬天还是会继续拿他的课。一直想从这几百年里选自己最喜欢的一个style,发现无从下手。不过考试的时候最记得哥德式。
整个学期都没有外出过，张同学说如果我周六路试通过的话就带我出去玩。来了这么久都没去过Longwood Garden，似乎说不过去。还有就在家门口的动物园和日本花园。
平时在张同学的严格督促下，菜都是从干净卫生的韩国超市买的。突然之间很怀念唐人街的叉烧和马来菜。为什么我们两个都总那么爱吃呢……
本来还愁要怎么炫耀一下我们买到Rain在Madison Square下周六演唱会的票。可是还没想好，演唱会就被延迟了。因为在Nevada一家演唱公司告他同名。他在Atlanta的演唱会被迫由"Rain is coming"改成“Jihoon is coming"，怪怪的。所以干脆把之后的都退迟，打完官司再说。
建筑史的期末考完了。这个课终于告一段落。教授太搞笑抵死，冬天还是会继续拿他的课。一直想从这几百年里选自己最喜欢的一个style,发现无从下手。不过考试的时候最记得哥德式。
整个学期都没有外出过，张同学说如果我周六路试通过的话就带我出去玩。来了这么久都没去过Longwood Garden，似乎说不过去。还有就在家门口的动物园和日本花园。
平时在张同学的严格督促下，菜都是从干净卫生的韩国超市买的。突然之间很怀念唐人街的叉烧和马来菜。为什么我们两个都总那么爱吃呢……
6/12/2007
To tintin:
My only final is tomorrow night. And it doesn't mean summer after the final, coz I don't have a vacation. T_T
To Jianing:
You can ask tintin who I am.^^ I've never talked with you when we were both in high school. But let me know if you need help with anything for the exchange.
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I interviewed a guy this afternoon for my replacement in fall. It's weird to know that I was actually talked about and selected under the exact same procedures. Well in a word in Chinese, it's 也就是那么一回事.
**
A very good buddy (I mean buddy really is a guy, since I don't have much gal friends), asked me the other day if he should come to U.S. Another classmate of mine was talking on line the other day that she's been having problems with her GPA in HK. And she's confused about the future career.
I realized, for the fact, I made a very very very big step forward when I was 18. I was talking to my mom on phone the other day. She asked me what exactly is the initial motivation to leave home. So you get a chance to know my true version of the mix of proud and pain study abroad story.
"It was my first year in senior high. I fell into great depression. Things are nothing like what I used to imagine a year ago. I was feared, scared and irritated. The only future I could imagine for myself is-graduate from this prestigious high school, get in a decent college, graduate with a nice paid job, get married with a man who my dad satisfies with, and have a kid or two. Then one day I wake up in the morning feeling I couldn't take this any more. I divorce this man who's been sleeping next to me for some 1o years, leave my kids suffering and I will die along in a nursing home."
My mom was amazed and told me she would never have expected me having such funny thoughts. I always believe one won't grow into a full person without some suffering. Something that is so irritating that you can't even express with words. A feeling that is so scary that you dream about it day and night. Some doubts that are so frustrating and devastating. A desire you want for a change, a step forward. And, that is my version of the suffering. I know it was all dramatic and naive. But that was me.
I don't know how to give an answer if or not they should make a move or do something. But you want it bad enough and you know you can't get it easily, you will know what to do.
***
We were lost today.
It usually takes about 40 mins for Brian to drive back on campus during rush hour. (We do carpool with other interns.) But it ended up 2 hours and 11 mins.
Thunders sounded exactly at 3:30pm. We left at 4:03. There were three accidents on I-76 and it was flooded. We spent the first hour trying to move forward on the high way. Then another hour wandering in local streets. And somehow made it to Lancaster Ave in Bryn Mawr with a map and uncertain left/right turns, then all the way back to Philly.
Saw a few very interesting residential houses and a Gothic high school. And took two naps.
Architecture history final tomorrow night. I'll miss Brack.
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There were too many drafts saved here. You should feel lucky to see this finished one.
My only final is tomorrow night. And it doesn't mean summer after the final, coz I don't have a vacation. T_T
To Jianing:
You can ask tintin who I am.^^ I've never talked with you when we were both in high school. But let me know if you need help with anything for the exchange.
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*
I interviewed a guy this afternoon for my replacement in fall. It's weird to know that I was actually talked about and selected under the exact same procedures. Well in a word in Chinese, it's 也就是那么一回事.
**
A very good buddy (I mean buddy really is a guy, since I don't have much gal friends), asked me the other day if he should come to U.S. Another classmate of mine was talking on line the other day that she's been having problems with her GPA in HK. And she's confused about the future career.
I realized, for the fact, I made a very very very big step forward when I was 18. I was talking to my mom on phone the other day. She asked me what exactly is the initial motivation to leave home. So you get a chance to know my true version of the mix of proud and pain study abroad story.
"It was my first year in senior high. I fell into great depression. Things are nothing like what I used to imagine a year ago. I was feared, scared and irritated. The only future I could imagine for myself is-graduate from this prestigious high school, get in a decent college, graduate with a nice paid job, get married with a man who my dad satisfies with, and have a kid or two. Then one day I wake up in the morning feeling I couldn't take this any more. I divorce this man who's been sleeping next to me for some 1o years, leave my kids suffering and I will die along in a nursing home."
My mom was amazed and told me she would never have expected me having such funny thoughts. I always believe one won't grow into a full person without some suffering. Something that is so irritating that you can't even express with words. A feeling that is so scary that you dream about it day and night. Some doubts that are so frustrating and devastating. A desire you want for a change, a step forward. And, that is my version of the suffering. I know it was all dramatic and naive. But that was me.
I don't know how to give an answer if or not they should make a move or do something. But you want it bad enough and you know you can't get it easily, you will know what to do.
***
We were lost today.
It usually takes about 40 mins for Brian to drive back on campus during rush hour. (We do carpool with other interns.) But it ended up 2 hours and 11 mins.
Thunders sounded exactly at 3:30pm. We left at 4:03. There were three accidents on I-76 and it was flooded. We spent the first hour trying to move forward on the high way. Then another hour wandering in local streets. And somehow made it to Lancaster Ave in Bryn Mawr with a map and uncertain left/right turns, then all the way back to Philly.
Saw a few very interesting residential houses and a Gothic high school. And took two naps.
Architecture history final tomorrow night. I'll miss Brack.
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There were too many drafts saved here. You should feel lucky to see this finished one.
6/07/2007
Crack a joke
I was making up a detail for construction this morning. My boss told me the piers edges are too close together. My other boss said:"I have a question.
If the piers are too close, will that increase peer pressure?"
6/06/2007
A very close friend of mine posted that she's engaged with her on-and-off boyfriend after their second break-up. So in the spirit of gossip, I invited her to dinner and listened to this stunning news. We spent the whole evening talking about the whole engagement thing. I was really happy for her, astonished as well. But still really happy for her, no matter her parents are going to approve it or not. It's a big step for both of them.
But the second she walked out of my door, she told me it was a joke. She's never engaged to him. They just "pretended to be married" and in an open relationship. And asked me "Isn't it funny? You believed it."
I am supposed to feel funny and laugh because my friend can't marry the guy she loved (or like) so much? Huh?
But the second she walked out of my door, she told me it was a joke. She's never engaged to him. They just "pretended to be married" and in an open relationship. And asked me "Isn't it funny? You believed it."
I am supposed to feel funny and laugh because my friend can't marry the guy she loved (or like) so much? Huh?
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